Celebrities as Role Models – Fifty Shades of No Big Deal

Fifty Shades of GreyAs the fear-mongering continues over “young people today” watching the Fifty Shades of Grey movie, I keep waiting for the flip side of the argument to appear, but it never does. The view point most articles have taken has really irked me, as apparently, the masses are all thought to be copycat idiots. If we see “romance” depicted in a poor manner on screen in a movie, we shall follow suit and do what they do.

Most articles and posts urge you to not see the movie, and stop speaking to anyone who does. Many claim that young people look up to celebrities and will think what they see on screen is how romance is done right.


Where are you in your life? Are you a parent, step parent, or grandparent? Are you concerned about the teens in your family seeing a movie and acting out what they see? If you answered YES, then you may be right. Children and teens DO learn from what they see in their life about how to treat others. Two weeks after seeing a movie, the movie will be long forgotten, but how you treat your husband or wife in front of your kids may last a lifetime. Do you scream, shout, say nasty things? Do you roll your eyes in disgust at your spouse in front of your children?

Movies don’t teach children what love and romance is – parents and families do. If you think your children need to see good role models of how a loving relationship should be – you are right. Be sure to BE that role model, and anything they see or read in Fiction will be nothing more than that – Fiction.

Your Minutiae is Not Mundane

Electronic KeyboardHave you read any novels recently that made you struggle to understand the context? When reading any book that isn’t considered “modern,” it can be helpful to be guided through the meaning by a teacher, or annotated version, or of course, your own internet-driven research.

Consider books published more than thirty years ago, when characters had to communicate by way of phone calls (long distance was expensive and costs accrued in per minute increments), or mail – which was slow. Well, mail is still slow, but letter writing is no longer a necessary form of communication.

Now consider a child born this year: 2015, who later reads a book published in 1985, when they are 15 years old. Will they struggle with understanding the culture? Will they understand how characters communicate, and the methods that they use, and realize what is missing and why? Will the mention of an Answering Machine confuse them? What about photographs not being instantaneous, movies at the theatre or occasionally at home on cable, but renting movies? Blockbuster wasn’t around until 1985 so not many people knew about it yet.

My point is this, your daily minutiae is NOT mundane. The details of your day create a small part of the collective makeup of our society and culture, and culture is sometimes lost in lack of understanding.

We now have more variety than ever before, and this carries over to our daily routines.

How old are you? Are you a teenager? How do you spend your free time? How do you get to school? Are you homeschooled (what is that like and how does it work)? Do you watch TV? Movies? Do you watch TV shows on a computer – or an actual TV?

Are you in your twenties? Did you go to college? Did you live in a dorm? Did you have roommates? What do you do for income? How do you get money you need, do you handle cash, or use credit cards almost exclusively?

What about those of you in your thirties or forties? Do you have children? Do you want children? Are you married or single? What is single life like for you? Married life? How you do meet new people?

What happens when you run out of something you need but you don’t need it the same day? Do you add it to a grocery list and drive to a story in a few days, or do you order it online to be delivered directly to your door?

How do you communicate with those you are close to, do you use the phone (what is your phone like, and is it actually a phone), do you use a computer, do you send an email, text, or chat? What is a chat message?

Your life is not mundane. Your life is context. Life is changing around us constantly and your life is interesting!